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One Toy That My Child Has Not Outgrown in 2 Years

12/7/2020

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With the holidays in full swing I have begun the search and collection of toys that I think will be a hit for him for my little one.  There is one toy that I got two years ago that he is still enjoying after 2 years.  The Little Tikes Trampoline. 
I will say proudly that I think this is one of my best purchases as a mom!  He has used it repeatedly and enjoys it till this day.  I was a little hesitant when I purchased it because I of course was worried about safety but intuitively he started jumping and holding on to the bar.  As he has gotten older and gained more confidence in his balance and skills her has stopped relying on the bar.  Bouncing and jumping is one of his favorite things to do.  This has saved me and my parents couches from breaking with his exuberant and boundless energy.  Whenever he starts jumping on the couch I remind him that it’s okay to jump off of the furniture but not to jump on and direct him to his indoor trampoline.
If you have a little one who loves to jump whose weight is <55lbs and you are looking for an indoor trampoline this is thee best!
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Little Tikes Trampoline
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What's Your Child's Love Language

11/16/2020

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When I began taking my dating life seriously I read a book “The 5 Love Languages”. It was very eye opening to me this concept that there were ways that I can be manifesting my love to others but because I am not speaking their “language” the manifestations have no meaning.
As I have been watching my son grow I am learning that he himself has a love language.  Truly he expresses and needs all 5:

  1. Words of Affirmation
  2. Quality Time
  3. Receiving Gifts
  4. Acts of Service
  5. Physical Touch
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Words of Affirmation:

I’ve been learning that Words of Affirmation are more than “I love you” it’s applauding him when he does something correct.  It is learning to acknowledge his correct behavior and positive attitude more than correcting and reminding him about things such as “don’t forget to flush the potty”

So often in the day to day functioning of raising him its so easy to point out mistakes and errors.  However, instead I'm choosing to focus more on the things that he accomplishes on his own.  Behavior and actions that show he is growing up and taking responsibility.  There are times that I slip into old patterns and I find myself feeling like I'm doing more correction and reminding but as I always state I'm a work in progress and so is he.  
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Quality Time:

I’m a busy, busy, busy Mommy Bee.  Raising my son, working 2 full-time jobs (in the home and out of the home), working on building a brand,  trying to stay on top of current events, reading for my own growth professional and personally, and a myriad of other tasks that as you know are too numerous to count.  Quality time to me means undivided attention—“All Stop Quit Quiet”.  This has particularly posed a challenge for me because as busy as I am providing my son with undivided attention seemed an impossible task. 

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Over time as I’ve struggled I’ve realized that quality time has different meanings for him.  It’s a closeness—it’s being involved in my activities.  During this quarantine time he had enjoyed popping into my office during my patient visits to say “Hi”.  Putting him in my desk to watch his movies while I work at the computer, cooking together, sometimes just sitting in a chair answering emails while he sits on the floor playing with his trains are the times he needs.  There are times when he does want my undivided attention and he communicates that very well.  I have learned to also communicate when I'm unable to give him my undivided attention and why.  I have also learned to set limits and honoring those limits.  For example--when I'm working on my last 1-2 patients at the end of the work day and he comes into my office I explain that I have to finish and that when I'm done I'll be all his until he gets bored with me and I honor that time.  I leave my phone in with my computer after my last visit and I'm all his. We talk about his day.  We play trains.  We play baby shark (don't ask 😉).   We enjoy each other until he has his fill and is ready to move on to something else.  Sometimes it's 5 min and other times it's 60 min.  Whatever his love tank needs to be topped off and full ⛽️ .  
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Receiving Gifts:

Spoiling my son is something that is so hard not to do.  Every time I see a toy that I think he would enjoy playing with I want to get it for him.  However, my money being funny and my change being strange coupled with memories of him enjoying playing with a toilet paper roll keep my wallet happy.  But I’ve learned to make a big fuss about the most mundane and necessary things.  Underwear, toothbrushes, toothpaste.  Things should be appreciated and respected.  Everything and every moment is a gift.  I find that by elevating the “mundane” my son appreciates all things in life.  I hope this trend stays.  I love that he is appreciative of items but I also know that as he begins to desire and express himself it will be more vital to ensure that even the smallest gestures are appreciated as the big gifts.

Act of Service:

Kids learn by example.  They parrot what they hear quickly becoming little mynah birds; intelligently selecting the naughty words we may utter in an unguarded moment.  I have grown up watching my mother do for others; not only in her role as a nurse practitioner but also as a sister and daughter in her family.  I treat my parents based on how they treated their parents.  I treat others how my parents treated others.  I expect and hope that my son will learn by my example. 

Finding acts of service for my son has caused us to grow closer together.  I am always finding the balance between encouraging him and pushing him to do for himself and learning to overcome frustrations when things to quite go as smoothly and easily as he feels they should.  On the other hand I enjoy doing things for him such as getting him juice before he asks for it sometimes.  Taking his plate into the kitchen for him.  Little things that I know he sees.  Displaying this behavior to my own parents so that it is a normal occurrence that is an expectation rather than an exception.
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Physical Touch:

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I must admit I birthed a snuggle bunny.  He loves to snuggle close to mommy and truth be told I love to snuggle with him.  Physical touch and holding is a love language both he and I share.  It was a hard thing transitioning him out of my bed.  Not only for him but also for myself.  It is true what they say they grow up so fast.  I miss holding him in my arms, smelling his hair, touching his skin, snuggling against him.

Moments of "cuddle time" is one of my favorite times of the day.  Even when I'm running behind in the morning in getting dressed when he asks for "cuddle time" I'm happy to oblige.  Of course I set a timer for a few minutes and let him know that we can only cuddle for a few minutes because otherwise we both would loose track of time.  I find that it gives up both a moment to connect with each other when we feel disconnected and fills up my love tank 🥰.
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On this journey of discovery that he and I are on.  I am learning that there are certain times and instances when I have to tap into which particular language he needs.  For example, when he is trying to over-talk whomever I’m talking to of course it’s a sign that he needs attention but why and what language is not being met.  Sometimes if it’s something he’s proud of and he is looking for words of affirmation; then there are times when he is looking for quality time.  Time for me to stop and provide him with my undivided attention—watching him play for instance.  Other times just my mere presence soothes and helps fill his love tank up.
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As he changes his love language needs will change and I must adapt.  It’s challenging and fun to learn the ways to speak to and fill up his love tank.
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4 Mom Blogs That I Love

10/12/2020

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During this pandemic and self-quarantine I craved and searched for ideas to help me keep Jeremy entertained and active.  I thought that I would share with you my top 4 favorite Mom Blogs.
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Natural Beach Living

I can’t say enough about this website.  Really and truly if there is a favorite among my list this is one.  I highly encourage you to sign up for her emails because not only does it get your access to a myriad of free printables; it also give you updates when she comes up with new content.  Which helped me when Jeremy got bored by some of the activities that we had done.
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Happy Toddler PlayTime

The Magic Milk STEM Experiment that she featured on her bog is by far my favorite activity to do with Jeremy.  I used expired milk so I had to make sure he didn’t try to drink it before we started the experiment.  Jeremy loves colors and stirring so the Magic Milk STEM project was a perfect fit.
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Teaching Mama

his website was so helpful for me in developing ideas for sensory activities for Jeremy.  I loved doing her Spring Scavenger Hunt printable.  It even gave me the idea to do a fall scavenger hunt recently where we hunted for different colored leaves.
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Jeremy loves music (I think it comes form all the singing I did while he was in utero)!  Her Brain Breaks for Kids post gave us some great songs for us to sing together.

FairyPoppins

This website has a great printables that I found helpful.  My favorite one is this color Bingo!  So creative and fun to play.  She has a lot of great printables too that I have used.
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These blogs have been a lifesaver during the pandemic and while trying to home school my child in between working.  Hope you find them helpful. 
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The Best Coffee Shop Around During the Pandemic

9/29/2020

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The one saving grace for me during the pandemic is that my favorite coffee shop never shut down.  They were taking orders during the height of the closures.  Only a few minutes from my bed this coffee shop has the best barista around; he started off a bit unconventional in the beginning.  He used to put many types of objects in the coffee for added flavor however he has since grown to a state of happiness with perpetual stirring of the coffee.
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Of course I’m talking about my little one!  It is so much fun to share “coffee time” with him.  I will say before the pandemic it was the highlight of my weekend but now that I’m off one day during the week and working virtually 2 days it’s like 5 days of morning bliss.  I have learned 3 things from him that I endeavor to never let go.
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No 1

Appreciate the small things.  For him an act that before was an auto pilot part of my morning has become a special ritual involving the moving of his step stool into position not only with flare but with pleas “You not do anything mommy!  Hands in the air you not do anything.  Jeremy has to get his step stool!”  The fervor with which he talks brings a smile to my face and joy in my heart. 

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Be prepared for the unexpected.  Early on in his barista career, he loved to put surprise items in the coffee, ostensibly for added flavor or just to see what happened but luckily he grew out of that phase.  But definitely being on my toes and aware of his quick movements save many a great cup of coffee from having an added bonus.  Being prepared of the unexpected.

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Savoring the scent is something I love to do before I take my first sip in the morning.  However smelling coffee with my little barista take smelling coffee to a whole other level.  The joy with which he squeals as he comes up with various ways the coffee smells (usually mostly nice things) is a joy but it prompts me to think of things and to look and experience life from a different aspect.
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Coffee time is a fun time in our household and a time to take a moment in the rush of life to stretch and grow.
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The Movies Lied About Feeding Ducks

4/6/2020

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A few weeks ago I decided to take the little one to feed the ducks.  Geechi in her true nature of wanting to minister to the ducks suggested that I feed them the stale raisin break that we had left.  Remembering that raisins are toxic to dogs I hopped onto Google to make sure that raisins wouldn’t be toxic to ducks and geese.  Well to my surprise I learned something—DON’T FEED BREAD TO DUCKS!
WHISKEY TANGO FOXTROT!  Had all the movies showing people feeding bread to ducks lied to me?!? YES.  Apparently bread provides no nutritional value to ducks the same as soda water (it’s the southern in me) to humans.  If you were lied to like I was here is a list of things you can feed to ducks and geese. 
  1. If over 4 weeks old Corn: frozen, canned, or fresh NOT POPCORN​
  2. Cucumber
  3. If over 4 weeks old Peas
  4. Scrambled eggs
  5. Dry cat/dog food
  6. Rice
  7. Bananas NO PEEL
  8. Carrots
  9. Broccoli and or Cabbage
  10. Lettuce 
The movies lied but the internet never will ???. Leave the ? at home and bring some ???????
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5 Hacks You’ll Thank Me For As Your Toddler Starts Learning To Brush Their Teeth:

2/17/2020

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Teaching a toddler new things can be a joy and a struggle.
Here are 5 things that I am using to help me as I'm teaching Jeremy how to brush his teeth.

HACK #1

Sing a Song:  I know it sounds crazy.  But for my little one brushing his teeth was an odd thing for him.  Sure I did it and he was cool with that but he was initially a little resistant to the actual brush and not my finger brush.  So capitalizing on his love of music I made up a song and involved him in the process

HACK #2

Take one for the team:  Sacrifice is sometimes needed to achieve your ultimate goal.  You mouth might be sore as well as your gums and tongue but letting your little on practice on you can be a great way to demonstrate there is nothing to fear and you can show you little one the correct way to hold her/his mouth as your brush their teeth to make sure the job is done.
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HACK #4

Go to the Dollar Store:  Trust me!  I got suckered and bought my little one a character toothbrush and it lasted all of a week.  Before I knew it it was chewed up and the bristles were bent 🤦🏾‍♀️.  Imagine spending between $3.99 to $6.99 every week on a toothbrush.  So I quickly went to my local Dollar Store and picked up some tooth brushes.  They were a huge hit!  They came two to a pack which was $0.50 a brush and they had a little suction cup bottom which he finds entertaining.

HACK #3

Fluoride Free Toothpaste:  Yep it’s a bit expensive I’m not going to lie but at the beginning your little one is going to be eating and swallowing the toothpaste so you may end up having to use more than the recommended amount.  As your little one gets used to brushing their teeth and spitting vs swallowing then you can make the switch.
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HACK #5

Brush together:  Kids mimic what they see us do.  As much as you may cherish your private bathroom time opening your door up and allowing your little one to see you engage in your grooming ritual will help them figure out what to do and how to do it.
As with anything that centers around children trial an error is essential.  I hope these tools help.  If you have any other tools or suggestions please share them in the comments below 👇🏾 to help others. 
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The 4 P's PeePee Potty, Poop, and Patience:  My Journey in Daytime Potty Training Myself

8/21/2019

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​Step 1: Naked Baby—I let my little one run around and play naked while I intently and purposefully played with him and watched him for his signs and tells that he needed to potty.  This was the hardest part for me because messes will happen.  He pooped on the floor; he peed on the floor.  He did it over and over again until I learned his signs and began to anticipate his pattern.
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It was here.  The time had come.  No matter how much I tried to ignore it my little one actually kept signaling that he was ready and I knew I needed to seize the opportunity.  I sought advice from friends, patients, Facebook groups, Google, etc.  The best advice I got was from my best friend who had just finished going through the process.  She recommended I get Oh Crap! Potty Training: Everything Modern Parents Need to Know to Do It Once and Do It Right By: Jamie Glowacki.  So I did!  Heck if it worked for her it had to work for me right?!?!
Well I’ll first say that it did!  Secondly it was not easy but then it’s not supposed to be.   While I highly recommend that you read the book well at least the first 5 chapters I’ll give a very simplified breakdown of how we went through the processes.
Step 2: Commando Baby—Then I had to put him in pants with not diaper and no underwear.  The washing machine became my best friend.  I contemplated buying more clothes for him because I felt like I couldn’t keep up, but I remained strong and focused that this time would pass.  We stayed at home initially most of the time because I was afraid of what would happen outside.  But I learned that we couldn’t stay locked in the house forever.  I learned to pack extra clothes, and to monitor and time his fluids if we had a planned outing.  I learned how to pull over on the side of the road and help him pee outside. 
Step 3:  Emerging Independence—it was so cute how after he started getting the hang of things he started wanting to help empty his own potty and wanted to flush the big commode.  I eventually learned to let go while he carried the bowl to the bathroom.  I learned to move the potty further away from me and allow him dignity and privacy (though he often calls me into the bathroom and often sits in the bathroom with me ??‍♀️)
Step 4:  Growing in Steps—we tried moving his step stool to the big commode however with no handles I got worried about his turns and transitioning so I went to Amazon and bought Potty Toilet Trainer Seat with Step Stool Ladder.  This has him using the adult commode like a champ!
I know that eventually I will need to teach him how to potty standing up and will need to work on night time potty training but as this process has taught me.  Everything in its season!  ?
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My 5 Biggest Purchase Regrets As A New Mother

7/24/2019

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As I go through the process of trying to rid my life of things that I no longer need I am surrounded by lots of things that I purchased in anticipation of my newborn that looking back almost 3 years later I never used or hardly used.

Here are my 5 top purchase regrets:

  1. Wipe Warmer:  I hate to say it because my mom told me we didn’t need it and other mothers told me not to do it but I vowed I was going to be different.  I had wipe warmer at every diaper changing station in my house (which is something I totally agree with if you can afford it—by the way).  I only used two of them—the one by my bedside and the one downstairs and even then the seals were never good and I felt like the wipes dried out too quickly.  So my recommendation is that if it’s on your registry or you are thinking of giving it as a gift.  SAVE YOUR MONEY
  2. Butt Paste:  Hardly ever used it.  I relied heavily on changing diapers quickly and often and also using aquaphor and Triple Antibiotic Ointment (TAO).  The butt paste these days are not like they used to be back when my mom was changing my diaper.  The whole idea of the butt paste is to stay on as a barrier protectant.  These days they wipe off too easily and I was always having to reapply.  So, I needed up switching to good old Aquaphor and Triple Antibiotic ointment.
  3. Pacifiers:  The little bugger never used them.  I tried all different types and models.  I think if you baby is a pacifier user they will use them but mind just didn’t.  ANYONE WANT ANY??? I have at least 10.
  4. Baby Clothes:  What was I thinking!!!!  I had all these different outfits for my little one but truthfully he spend most of his time in onesies.  If I ever did this again I would stock up on white onesies and call it a day.  Now, a friend did say that I probably would feel differently if I had had a daughter and she’s probably right.  Boys clothes are just so unimaginative.  
  5. Q-Tips and Cotton Balls:  I NEVER EVER EVER EVER USED THEM.  I stocked up on these things and never found a use for my baby.  Luckily I use the cotton balls now in my “No Water” Facial Cleansing Routine and the Q-Tips for eyeliner mistakes on the rare occasion I use eyeliner so they didn’t go to waste but its taken me almost three years to use them up.


Hope this list is helpful on saving you from traveling down the road I did but if you are anything like me you might just do what I did.  Read them, chuckle, and say…”I’ll be different she just didn’t know what she was doing” LOL! 😂🤦🏾‍♀️😂
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DIY: Reusable Toddler Painting Easel

7/10/2019

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While my house may be messy since my little one I’m still a neat freak at heart.  I’ve SLOWLY been learning to embrace a state chaos and mess with earnest strive for organization. 
I recently realized that my little one hasn’t done many art projects dues to my hesitancy against mess. I’ve been searching for ways to have art time with minimal mess...then Eureka! I found it! A reusable painting surface.

Supplies needed:
  1. Hard Surface like a table
  2. Packing Tape
  3. Lawn Trash Bag—Smooth and thick (heavy weight)
  4. Crayons Paint
  5. Wipes
I used my breakfast table as the hard surface and opened up the lawn trash bag and then taped it down to the table on the underside.  That’s it!  Really simple.  Put the paint directly on the trash bag surface or on a plate.  Then sit back and enjoy the wonderful chaos and beautiful mess that follows.  When the paint session is done use wipes to wipe down not only your toddler but also the trash bag and your surface is ready to go again. 
I hope that this DIY hack works as well for you as it has for me.  Let the painting and mess begin! 💚👨🏾‍🎨
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5 BOOKS YOU HAVE TO ADD TO YOUR CHILDREN'S LIBRARY

4/10/2019

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Once you learn to read, you will be forever free.” — Frederick Douglass. 
Education has always been a core fundamental principle in my family and one that I strive to instill in my son.  When I found out I was pregnant I was ecstatic.  One of the first things I purchased for my little one was a book.  (The actual first thing I purchased for my baby was a set of onesies with Star Trek themes as a way to announce my pregnancy to my father).
I constantly search for books for my little one that will appeal to him, grow his vocabulary, and provide him with new exposures and cultures.  I also look for books where he can find himself represented and reflected in the stories.   It is so important for me that the stories be authentic and imaginative.  I don’t look for the stereotypical story about slavery, segregation, and black historical figures I search beyond that.  I search and long for stories that will engage my son and spark his imagination, cultivate his sense of wonderment.
Here are a few that I’ve collected:

THE KING OF TOO MANY THINGS

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The King of Too Many Things By: Laurel Snyder Illustrated by Aurore Damant

Right now this is Jeremey’s favorite one at bedtime. Initially he did not want to sit still as I read it because he was so used to short board books. However, when I started doing the voices he was initially intrigued and then when he actually looked at the pictures which are very colorful he was hooked. Now as we read he points out the characters and we count the kittens and other items in the book.

I found this book quite by accident while I was shopping on Zulily. WHO KNEW THEY SOMETIMES HAD CHILDREN’S BOOKS 🤦🏾‍♀️!

As a parent I love the fact that he is seeing a main character that is of his complexion and hue. I also adore the messages of the story that sometimes more is not better and when you are in a hole the best thing to do is to stop digging 👍🏾.

A LULLABY OF SUMMER THINGS

A Lullaby of Summer Things By: Natalie R. Ziarnik Illustrated by Madeline Valentine


Again this is another find I stumbled across on Zulily. (Don’t sleep on Zulily—it make take a few + weeks for you to get things but if you aren’t in a rush there there is no problem). Jeremy like this story as do I. The rhymes and the cadence appeal to our sing song time. The illustrations are so adorable and detailed. I love pointing at items and having Jeremy tell me what they are. It’s another way I help build up his vocabulary.
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CHOCOLATE ME!

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Chocolate Me! By Taye Diggs Illustrated by Shane W. Evans


This book about self acceptance was a must for our little family. The message that no matter what others say how you feel about you is key is a message that I want resonating in his mind for all time. The illustrations are vibrant which definitely attracts Jeremy and when we get to the cupcakes…that’s all I hear about for 2 hours…Cupcakes Cupcakes Cupcakes!
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WHOSE KNEES ARE THESE

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Whose Knees Are These By Jabari Asim Illustrated by LeUyen Pham


I love this little board book. Jeremy actually picked it out at the library and it’s such a hit that I’ve ordered it from Barnes and Noble for it be part of our collection. The rhyming lyrics are cute as well as the illustrations. I love the fact that all you see are the knees for most of the book until almost the end.
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THE WORLD IS AWAKE

The World is Awake By: Linsey Davis with Joseph Bottum Illustrated by Lucy Fleming

This book is definitely a wonderful find. I enjoy the different perspective on celebrating creation in all it's wonder.  The illustrations are vibrant and inviting with a level of detail that allows us to go beyond the words and marvel at the pictures.  
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