5 Ways To Handle Heartache And Not Be Bitter!

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It’s hard out here!  Let me tell you!  For those that have found their mates and are in happy relationships…CONGRATULATIONS!  However for those of us who are still kissing frogs, worms, slugs, pugs, and so on the end of a relationship can be hard.

I recently ended a relationship that had been on and off again for the last 2 years.  It left me heartbroken to end it because I was in love.  Suffering repeated heartbreak and disappointment can leave one feeling jaded, unloved, and defeated.  In my 42 years I have been unlucky in my search but I still remain optimistic and a hopeless romantic by doing these 5 things.

BEING HONEST

There is always one side another side and somewhere in the middle lies the truth.  This is the hardest step for me to really look back and be honest about things in any relationship that I could have done differently or better.  It easy to remember and recall the faults or errors of others but so difficult sometimes to acknowledge our own.  Sometimes there is not fault to be laid at your feet and sometimes there is.

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Forgive

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You don’t have to go to the person and say I forgive you; that isn’t always possible or advisable.  But the act of purposefully and fully forgiving the other person and yourself is key.  The act of forgiving opens you up and frees you from the baggage of past hurts

​Know your worth!  Acknowledge your worth!  Declare your worth!

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Sometimes in relationships that end others can try and tear your down mentally and emotionally.  Sometimes we can begin to doubt our self worth.  Our confidence can get hammered; especially when we look at our friends who have found their special someone.  We can turn inward and wonder “why not me” “what’s wrong with me”?  Well nothing is!  If you have fully addressed and been honest with yourself about your part or lack of let in your relationships end then you can quickly see that there is nothing wrong with you.  The act of comparison can be a foothold for your self worth to be annihilated.  So stop comparing!  If you know your worth, acknowledge your worth and declare your worth then there is no reason to compare yourself to anyone else.

Care for your heart

It’s easy to go into full wall up and protective mode when your heart is broken.  It’s a naturally reaction.  However there is a difference between caring and protecting your heart and walling yourself and your heart off.  Protect yourself,  pay attention to the red flags, your inner “woman” sense, your knowledge from past experiences in your life.  Be knowledgeable and wise in your actions, be careful but do not wall yourself off in loneliness.  By forgiving the other person it’s easier to trust.

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Love yourself first

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If you love yourself first you are never without love.  If you love yourself first and fully then the love of another is extra and becomes a treat not a necessity.  Falling steadily in love with ones self is the best love affair.  It's a love affair to remember!