I was in a restaurant this weekend with my son and there was this couple who were expecting sitting next to us. Reading body language it was easy to see looks exchange between the two of them as my son carried on being a 2 year old—singing, talking, trying to play with things he shouldn’t, refusing to eat food, putting food on the table and then eating it—typical 2 year old shenanigans.
As a non-parent it was so easy for me to proclaim what things I would or would not do as a mother; essentially sit in a seat of judgment as to what was “good parenting”😔. As a mother I realize all too clearly now that parenting is hard and full of difficult choices. As I look back through the eyes of that mother-to-be into the mother that I am now, I recall 5 things I said I would never do that not do I do but I do routinely.
Wipe my kids face with my spit: My spit is so handy and so is my hand. Yes I used to say I would always use a wipe. I never understood why parents wouldn’t just use a wipe. LOL—toddlers move fast and so do their bodily juices. Sometimes the wipe is out of reach and my hand or fingers are more expedient 🤧 I know it’s not hygienic but it’s reality.
Bring an iPad to outings: Limit screen time! Avoid exposure to electronics! Electronics can impair your child’s learning! I heard all this when I was pregnant and I was determined that my child wouldn’t have access to an iPad. As Jeremy got older his curiosity in electronics increased. I began to wonder was I impairing his learning by keeping him from something that has become so commonplace in society. I also realized that as my mother was his caregiver for most of the day and time having to not fight this struggle would also give her some downtime as well. So we tested it out with an old generation iPad that I had. Jeremy picked it up quickly so I deleted a lot of my apps and installed educational apps. We also used it as a tool together for reading books online.
Co-Sleeping: stay tuned for my next upcoming blog post where I delve into this matter in more detail but suffice it to say that my original plan was not to co-sleep with my little one.
Fall asleep before my little one: A momma be tired! I try to stay awake but his energy is boundless. I remember I was trying to put Jeremy to sleep and my friend said that they walked in and found me asleep and Jeremy watching TV 🤦🏾♀️
Posting pictures of my little one on social media: I initially had said that I would not post any pictures of my little one on social media, and I initially kept that promise. As I started my blog and began the journey of sharing my journey I realized that motherhood is a part of that journey and Jeremy is a part of that. Some thought it was because I was ashamed of him which is far from the case. It was more initially and effort to protect him. I have realized that social media is not going anywhere and that to truly protect him I must be savvy in how it works and I want to set an example of how to be a responsible user.
As we finished our meal, paid for the check, and walked out I turned and looked at the young couple, smiled, expressed my congratulations, and wished them all the best on this new chapter in their life.
Embracing my imperfection and striving for perfection through grace.